A Couple’s Bucket List

In an earlier post I talked about my personal bucket list . When my husband and I started dating we started couples bucket list based on the idea that we are hellbent on never becoming stagnant in life or in our relationship. As we experience new things our list continues to grow, but I thought I would share what we have so far!

1. Volunteer in a foreign country

2. Cook everything is Julia Child’s “Mastering the Art of French Cooking”

3. See Radiohead live

Because we love Thom Yorke’s dance moves!

4. Eat frog’s legs

5. Take a cruise

6. Visit Europe

7. Learn how to make sushi (we have a kit and dvd.. just gotta get around to it!)

8. Go camping (He’s been. I haven’t. He’s convinced it’ll traumatize me)

9. Learn to speak Korean (we really want to learn as many languages as possible, but Korean is at the top of the list)

10. Ride a camel

11. Ride every ride at Six Flags

12. Go golfing together (we’ve been to a driving range… but I gave myself “golfer’s elbow”.. whoops!)

13. Swim naked in the ocean… once young… once after we’re 60

14. Get arrested when we are elderly

15. Revisit Hawaii for a second honeymoon

16. Embarrass our kids on their first dates (we’re open to suggestions for how to go about this)

17. Smoke pot together

18. Kiss every time we are on an elevator ✔

19. Jump off the rock in Waimea Bay together (he’s done it alone, but we didn’t get a chance to jump together before we moved because the giant waves (I mean GIANT) started coming in before we had a chance to get to the beach)

20. Buy fancy clothes (because we both feel weird dressed up)

21. Eat at a gourmet restaurant for our anniversary each year.

22. If shit ever gets so bad in our relationship that we can’t fix it… we have no choice but to conclude that there is no hope for love in the world… and we have to destroy the planet

23. Be the greatest couple in the history of mankind ✔

24. Have director based movie marathons ✔ (So far we’ve done Terry Gilliam and the Coen Brothers. Michael Mann and Stanley Kubrick are next)

25. Buy two male beta fish just to watch them fight.  Loser has to cook dinner for a week wearing only an apron and chef’s hat

26.  Take an aerial tour of Oahu

32. Urbanspoon day once a month (this entails using the “shake” feature on the Urbanspoon app and eating at where ever it tells us. Price point and neighborhood can be set, and you can skip chain restaurants… but other than that.. you eat where it tells you) (We’re starting this month!)

33. Go to the zoo ✔ (we went to the one in Honolulu… but really it’s just “go to as many zoos possible”)

 

Do you and your other half have a bucket list? What would you want to be on it?

 

Revisiting a Bucket List

In 2009 I had a blog that served very little purpose except for me to ramble on about random things. It was entertaining, for sure, but it lacked direction… as did I at the time. One day I composed a bucket list for the blog full of absolutely random goals and things I wanted to accomplish. Today I looked at that list and chuckled. Some of it was pretty solid, but other goals seem silly now.

I’ve always loved the idea of a bucket list to keep track of the things one would want to do with their life. As we get older, and as we grow as people it’s not uncommon for our idea of happiness to change, and with that the things on the bucket list will change. And that’s perfectly fine. The significance of this list it to give your life a place to aim so that you can achieve happiness along the way. Happiness is not the goal… it’s not the end.. it’s the means. So this is my revised bucket list.

From 2009

1. Get married ✔✔

2. Have children (putting this one off for a bit)

3. Choreograph a decent dance and post it on YouTube

4. See the ruins of Pompeii

5. Drink a can of beer without hating every second of it ✔ (it was a raspberry lambic in a glass.. that technically came from a bottle… but a beer nonetheless)

6. Decorate a house so well the people think I hired someone (slowly but surely working on this one)

7. Own a Volkswagon Bus  it would still be cool… but it’s not a priority

8. successfully grow a tree

9. Grow, harvest and roast my own sunflower seeds

10. Have my parents owe me money rather than the other way around (this has slowly become more difficult to obtain)

11. See a professional Nutcracker

12. Create my own cookie recipe to pass on to my children

13. Visit Iceland not a priority

14. Write a memoir… or a piece of fiction loosely based on reality

15. Make photography a hobby… but be really good (I sort of achieved this… then lost access to a camera… so it’s staying on the list)

16. See the LaBrea Tar Pits

New Editions in 2012

17. Complete a 5k and a mud run (someone PLEASE do a mud run with me!!!!!)

18. Do this epic yoga pose

from yogajournal.com 

19. Go on a cruise

20. Do some volunteer work

21. Have someone want to pay me for a photo I’ve taken

22. Eat at a fancy gourmet restaurant

23. Cook food that looks/tastes like a fancy gourmet restaurant

24. Raise children that are comfortable in their skin and proud of who they are.

My husband and I have a joint bucket list we complied.. I’d share it but it’s somewhere on his computer. But I do think it includes getting arrested as elderly folk and destroying the world if we let our relationship fail…

I have no clue if I will achieve all of these things. Maybe in three years I’ll go back and get rid of a few of them again. Who knows. But honestly, looking at my list… it looks like if I even attempt any of them, I’ll be living a fun and happy life.. and that’s the real goal.

So what’s on your bucket list?